Holiday Loving

Now that the holidays are here what is it about? Well, the holidays are about stuffing your face with food such as; turkey, ham, macaroni and cheese. Of course there are also those nasty gifts like sweaters that your grandmother gives every year. However, the most important part is the fact that families come together to celebrate the goodness and love amongst one another. I know in past blogs I wrote about how family don't show enough love to one another, but around this time of year things are a little different.

One thing about Africans is that we love to party and dance, on every occasion; birthdays, weddings, and even funerals. We also eat like there is no tomorrow. So, we make a variety of traditional foods. I absolutely love the holidays in my house. It is a time when we all get together as a family and make tons of dishes. None of our values change in the process; meaning men are still highly respected. They do not even have to lift a finger because women in my culture feed them and treat them as if they are kings.

Shouldn’t it always be that way? We should be able to act like this all the time around family, on an everyday basis. Why is it that a date changes the way you act or feel about one another? It is like saying “I love you”, why do people say it when they are leaving someone, or when it is way too late that they say those words? It is because we take each other for granted and don’t realize what we have when standing in front of us. It is not right; you should be able to say it all the time when and how you want to say it; that is just the normal and right thing to do.

Family anyone

What does family mean? Well, the dictionary defines it as “Parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not.” If I never read the definition I would have never accurately knew what it meant. I always thought of family as people who love each other and cannot be separated. This is because they have such a tough bond with one another. When I think of family I think of the Brady Bunch, they always look so happy and when they had conflict they dealt with it and moved on; together as a family. They do not have to be related they just have to have love among each other; guess I was mistaken. What I still do not understand is why in the definition of family it says “whether dwelling or not” what is that trying to say? Is it saying that even if you are not happy with your relation people you are still considered a family? Or is it saying if we do not live together we are still family? Actually, I have a better understanding of the definition now when I think of my own family, we are all bound together because they are my relatives and friends; but at the same time if one of us or all of us is not getting along or is going through something we are still family. Even when not residing together we are still bound jointly one way or another.
I was reading my Indian friends blog and she talked about how men rule her family and how unfair it is because, she is subject to always live under there dictating system. I personally understand and have no problem with men leading and being the man of the house; keyword leading not dictating. As a person raised in the Ghanaian culture, the whole time you are growing up you just cannot wait to leave the nest because of this type of stern upbringing. What is the point of being considered a group also known as a family if the whole time someone is dictating you around? I am not trying to say I was raised horribly; however, it could have been way better. This whole topic goes back to my blog; Where’s the Love? Where is the love in some of these families; in my case the African culture raising?

One Thing Everyone Agrees On

One thing that Caucasians, African Americans, Asians and everyone else can all agree on is kids should not be having kids. That is one thing that I think we all can agree on, because it just is not right. In our society 90% of teenagers can get pregnant if they don’t use any type of contraceptive. My question is why are all these kids having babies? Well since 1990 the use of condoms has declined for a lot of these teens. Since they are in the “heat of the moment” they feel like it doesn’t really matter. On a webpage I found on Google called “Adolescent pregnancy”. On the webpage it basically said that the reason teenagers are becoming pregnant at such a young age is because of the culture we live in. meaning the TV they watch and their peers and what they see they just end up doing it. What monkey see monkey do.When it all comes down to it though I think it is how you are raised personally, because my parents did not raise me in a strict manner nor were they too lenient but they put down the rules. When parents are too strict kids tend to fight back and end up getting pregnant.


https://health.google.com/health/ref/Adolescent+pregnancy

Why Are Some Cultures So Strict

I have decided to put this topic on my blog because I believe it is a big concern, it also is the reason why some cultures cannot seem to love. So my question is why are some cultures so strict? Me, myself my parents are pretty lenient with me, but that is not how it always was. My parents used to be extremely strict with everything, school, friends, boys, with life in general. I felt like I was in jail! So basically I had to look this up and figure out why? What I found out was; it is not just the African tribe that is strict with their society, it is like that with Asians, Middle Eastern and more. I asked my father about this and he told me: “That is just how we are raised, if you want to grow up and be respectful and be a God fearing person then you have to be raised in a strict manner”. So that is what it is, everything he kept repeating and saying had to do with God. What does religion have to do with anything? Obviously it has to do with everything because everything we were talking about all came down to Religion. Now I know what my next blog is going to be about.

Wedding

My aunt and her boyfriend, or should I say "good friend", have decided to get married. Well, I thought when you get married you propose, have an engagement (if you want to), then it’s the wedding ! Wrong was I, I almost certainly should have known that since everything in my culture is just so different. Instead she had an engagement and then the groom’s family had to disburse my grandfather money give her away.

Yup, I have never heard of that one. Why is that you have to buy someone to marry them. Where’s the love in that? There isn’t. it might of well have been a arranged because your groom or husband is acquiring you off as if you were some type of meat and if you are just too expensive then what?

Now I know why everyone says to my dad “you’re going to be a rich man one day with all those girls you have”. But what if I marry someone who is not African? Are they going to have to pay also, and how much? Well St. Ambrose said “when in Rome do as the Romans” so in this case I am going to do as the Americans do and get married the normal way. Meaning not getting purchased off when I get married.

How it is and how it should be.

It sounds so original to say but, what is love? How do you show it? When do you tell someone you love them? Well in the dictionary it defines it as: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. I was brought up by my parents who are from Ghana in Africa. I was born in Canada and raised in the United States. I never noticed how different everything and everyone was around me. When I was at home I was taught and was outside in the world.

Is it with the words or actions? At home it was more with the actions, in the African culture you do not show your love by hugging or by telling the other person you love them. No, you show them by respecting your mother and father. Another way is by doing all your chores and homework. Growing up I never heard my mother and father tell each other they love each other, or even hold hand. That was very awkward and diverse to me since, when I went out everywhere else that’s all I saw and knew of. The African society believes that showing emotion when it comes to love as a sign of weakness, or even a sign of being disrespectful. Implying if I was to go to Africa or even be around an African and be holding my “boyfriends’” hand in public I am being very rude and people around me would not approve of that behavior. In the society I live in that is ok! That is normal, that’s how it should be.

People are supposed to be passionate and tell each other how they feel. When they want to hug or hold each others hand. They should not be subjected to hold back their feelings because of what “is accurate”. I have come to learn that love isn’t just a word it is an action you need to take.

The worst and most absurd blog on the net.

When I read this assignment on finding the worst blog on the net, I did not think that I was going to find something as shocking as I found. I was trying to find a blog relating to my topic, but I could not find one, until I bumped into this particular ludicrous blog.

The blog is “Barrack Obama the Antichrist” at www.barackobamaantichrist.blogspot.com
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I feel this blog is the worst because; it just does not make any type of sense. It had to be put up there by a total idiot. The blogger has a video on “The Obama Deception” which is ridiculous it basically shows how Obama is trying to just ruin America and the people in it. The blogger writes about how Obama wants the world to really be in some type of slavery. How is that possible when Obama has never said anything about slavery? Out of all the presidents that we have had, I think that our African/White democratic president does not want us to be in any type of slavery (how would he even separate us when he is mixed with everything). Then he compares Barrack Obama and his whole presidential plan to the Nazi Germany and how Hitler tried to dominate everything and everyone. That’s pretty funny because I never knew that Hitler tried to make a health plan for the Germans.